A Better Man (film)

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| director = Attiya Khan
Lawrence Jackman

| producer = Christine Kleckner
Justine Pimlott

| writer = Attiya Khan
Lawrence Jackman

| narrator =

| music = Lesley Barber

| cinematography = Iris Ng

| editing = Lawrence Jackman

| production_companies = Intervention Productions
National Film Board of Canada

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| released = {{Film date|df=y|2017|04|30|Hot Docs}}

| runtime = 79 minutes

| country = Canada

| language = English

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A Better Man is a 2017 Canadian documentary film co-directed by Attiya Khan and Lawrence Jackman in which Khan, a survivor of domestic abuse, meets with the man who abused her to see if he can take responsibility to heal and repair the harms he created. The first filmed encounter between her and her ex-boyfriend, identified only as "Steve," took place in April 2013. After the initial contact, several of the conversations were facilitated by Tod Augusta-Scott, a prominent counselor in the domestic violence field.[http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/sudbury/better-man-screens-sudbury-1.4358897 A Better Man to be screened in Sudbury CBC, Oct.17, 2017][http://www.bridgesinstitute.org Bridges Institute]Tod Augusta-Scott (ed.). Innovations in Interventions to Address Intimate Partner Violence: Research and Practice. (Routledge Press, 2017) The film also follows them back to their old high school as well as an apartment in Ottawa, and shows how the violence still affects Khan.{{cite news|url=http://torontolife.com/culture/movies-and-tv/qa-attiya-khan-filmmaker-confronted-man-abused-new-documentary-better-man/|title=Q&A: Attiya Khan, the filmmaker who confronted the man who abused her in a new documentary, A Better Man|last=Keeler|first=Emily M.|author-link=Emily M. Keeler|date=26 April 2017|work=Toronto Life|accessdate=23 May 2017}}

The film was financed through crowdfunding on Indiegogo; it raised over $110,000 CAD, making it one of the most successful crowdfunding campaigns in Canadian history.{{cite news|url=https://nowtoronto.com/movies/hot-docs-2017/life-behind-the-lens/|title=Iris Ng, one of Toronto's busiest documentary cinematographers, returns to Hot Docs|last1=Ritchie|first1=Kevin|date=26 April 2017|work=NOW Magazine|accessdate=23 May 2017|language=en-us}} Upon release, it received mostly positive reviews from critics, and was chosen as one of the top 10 best films of 2017 by The Globe and Mail.{{Cite news|url=https://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/film/the-year-in-critical-viewing-kate-taylors-top-10-films-of2017/article37445528/|title=The year in critical viewing: Kate Taylor's top 10 films of 2017|access-date=2018-01-11}}

Background

After leaving Steve when she was 19, Khan would continue to encounter him in public. The first time she saw him, two years after she left him, Khan was weak and speechless. But as they continued to meet by chance over a six-year period, and her life continued to improve, they'd exchange a few minutes of small talk. It was during such chance encounter in 2011 that Steve asked if they could sit down. Once seated, Steve repeatedly apologized before bursting into tears.{{cite news|url=http://nymag.com/thecut/2017/05/a-better-man-film-restorative-justice-and-domestic-abuse.html|title=Why Would a Woman Want to Talk to the Man Who Abused Her?|last1=Chapin|first1=Angelina|date=5 May 2017|work=The Cut|accessdate=23 May 2017|publisher=New York magazine|language=en}}

In the ensuing years, Khan wondered if talking to Steve more might help her deal with her trauma, and help Steve to better understand the roots and consequences of his violence and make him less likely to reoffend. She also decided to try to record such a dialogue as a resource for both domestic abuse survivors and offenders. She proposed such an idea to Steve in 2013. Six months later, he texted her that he was ready to meet. Two days later, they did so at a coffee shop for their first recorded exchange. Khan and her ex-abuser would go on film eight days together over the course of a year, sharing their memories and experiences and with Steve facing the consequences of what he did.{{Cite news|url=http://www.cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/the-current-for-april-25-2017-1.4083138/has-it-affected-him-woman-confronts-her-abuser-in-documentary-a-better-man-1.4083139|title='Has it affected him?' Woman confronts her abuser in documentary A Better Man|date=2017-04-25|work=The Current with Anna Maria Tremonti|access-date=2017-05-23|publisher=CBC Radio|language=en}}

Production

A Better Man was co-produced by Intervention Productions (prod. Christine Kleckner) and the National Film Board of Canada (prod. Justine Pimlott), and executive produced by Sarah Polley, Anita Lee, Jane Jankovic, Janice Dawe, and Kathy Aurich-Johnson. The music was composed by Lesley Barber.{{cite news|url=http://www.screendaily.com/reviews/a-better-man-hot-docs-review/5117526.article|title=A Better Man: Hot Docs Review|last1=Halligan|first1=Fionnuala|date=9 May 2017|work=Screen Daily|accessdate=23 May 2017|language=en}} Iris Ng was the film's cinematographer, having previously worked with Polley on Stories We Tell.

A Better Man was co-written and co-directed by Attiya Khan. Attiya Khan is a Canadian filmmaker, anti-violence activist, and intimate partner violence survivor.{{Cite web|url=https://abettermanfilm.com/about/#team|title=About – A Better Man|website=abettermanfilm.com|language=en-US|access-date=2018-03-07}}{{Cite web|url=https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/nov/15/attiya-khan-film-a-better-man-boyfriend-abuse|title=Attiya Khan: why I confronted the boyfriend who beat me – and made a film about it|last=Mahdawi|first=Arwa|date=2017-11-15|website=the Guardian|language=en|access-date=2018-03-07}} She graduated with a degree in women's studies and psychology from the University of Toronto. Her interest in helping others who have experienced domestic violence led her to take the Assaulted Women's and Children's Counsellor/Advocate program at George Brown College. Her career highlights include overseeing the Children and Youth Services Program at Transition House in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and wide-ranging roles including frontline work, management and training with YWCA Toronto.{{Cite web|url=https://kickasscanadians.ca/attiya-khan/|title=Attiya Khan · Kickass Canadians|website=kickasscanadians.ca|language=en-US|access-date=2018-03-07}} She is based in Toronto.

= Crowdfunding =

The film was crowd-sourced through an Indiegogo campaign, with Feist among the donors, contributing $10,000.{{cite news|url=http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/feist-backs-indiegogo-campaign-canadian-748516|title=Feist Backs Indiegogo Campaign for Canadian Sex Abuse Doc|last1=Vlessing|first1=Etan|date=12 November 2014|work=The Hollywood Reporter|accessdate=23 May 2017|language=en}} The campaign would go on to raise over $110,000—one of the most successful crowdfunding campaigns in Canadian history.

Release

The film screened at numerous film festivals and had its world premiere at the Hot Docs Canadian International Documentary Festival, where it was considered "one of Hot Docs most stirring films."[http://www.digitaljournal.com/entertainment/entertainment/review-a-better-man-is-one-of-hot-docs-most-stirring-films/article/491597 Digital Journal]

Today A Better Man continues to play at international film festivals and violence against women events. The film also plays on occasion at Hot Docs in Toronto, Ontario.{{Cite web|url=https://www.hotdocs.ca/archive/films/better-man|title=Better Man - Hot Docs|website=www.hotdocs.ca|language=en-US|access-date=2018-04-01}}

Distribution

A Better Man is distributed in the United States by Women Make Movies.

= Reception =

Since its release, the film has received mostly positive reviews from critics; Kate Taylor of The Globe and Mail listed the film in her top 10 list of films for 2017.

The New Yorker film reviewer Doreen St. Félix commended the film's "cleverness" and wrote that "it resists the roundness of resolution or catharsis".{{Cite magazine|url=https://www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/after-abuse-the-possibility-of-a-better-man|title=After Abuse, the Possibility of A Better Man|magazine=The New Yorker|access-date=2018-01-11|language=en-US}} Arwa Mahdawi of The Guardian described the film as "a call to action for abusive men to stand up and take responsibility for their anger and their actions."{{cite web |title=Attiya Khan: why I confronted the boyfriend who beat me – and made a film about it |date=2017-11-15 |website=The Guardian |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20221001143656/https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/nov/15/attiya-khan-film-a-better-man-boyfriend-abuse |archive-date=2022-10-01 |url-status=live |url=https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/nov/15/attiya-khan-film-a-better-man-boyfriend-abuse}} CBC host of The Current Anna Maria Tremonti stated that "there is a lot of raw emotion in this film and there is a lot hope."{{cite web |title='Has it affected him?' Woman confronts her abuser in documentary A Better Man {{!}} CBC Radio |date=2017-04-25 |website=CBC News |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20230609083855/https://www.cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/the-current-for-april-25-2017-1.4083138/has-it-affected-him-woman-confronts-her-abuser-in-documentary-a-better-man-1.4083139 |archive-date=2023-06-09 |url-status=live |url=http://www.cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/the-current-for-april-25-2017-1.4083138/has-it-affected-him-woman-confronts-her-abuser-in-documentary-a-better-man-1.4083139}} Maclean's reported that "the film manages to be simultaneously agonizing and hopeful… it is revelatory to know these kinds of [restorative] conversations are possible."[http://www.macleans.ca/culture/movies/in-attiya-khans-a-better-man-a-different-way-to-understand-domestic-abuse/ MacLean's] Miriam Bale of Vulture.com called the film a "revolutionary documentary."{{Cite news|url=http://www.vulture.com/2017/11/why-attiya-khan-confronted-her-longtime-abuser-on-camera.html|title=A Better Man{{'}}s Attiya Khan on Why She Confronted Her Longtime Abuser on Camera|last=Bale|first=Miriam|work=Vulture|access-date=2018-01-11|language=en}}

The Hollywood Reporter published a less enthusiastic review, concluding that "the vagueness and ambiguity of the situations eventually proves frustrating and detract from the film's power."{{cite news|url=http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/review/a-better-man-1001303|title=A Better Man: Film Review|last1=Scheck|first1=Frank|date=8 May 2017|work=The Hollywood Reporter|accessdate=23 May 2017|language=en}}

National Film Board of Canada made a review saying "A Better Man offers a fresh and nuanced look at the healing and revelation that can happen for everyone involved when men take responsibility for their abuse",{{cite web | url=https://www.nfb.ca/film/better_man/ | title=A Better Man }} commenting on the films use of healing process in domestic violence situations.

References

External links

{{Official website|http://abettermanfilm.com/}}
http://www.wmm.com/filmcatalog/pages/c959.shtml
{{IMDb title|4323556}}
{{rottentomatoes|a_better_man}}
[https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/review/a-better-man-1001303 A Better Man] at The Hollywood Reporter

Category:Canadian independent films

Category:Canadian documentary films

Category:Films about domestic violence

Category:2017 films

Category:Documentary films about violence against women

Category:Films shot in Ottawa

Category:National Film Board of Canada documentaries

Category:Films scored by Lesley Barber

Category:Documentary films about reconciliation

Category:Indiegogo-funded films

Category:2017 documentary films

Category:Violence against women in Canada