Ihi

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Ihi (Nepal Bhasa: ईही), also spelled as Ehee, is a ceremony performed by the Newar people of Nepal in which age 1,3,5,7 or 9 girls are ceremonially "married" to a bael fruit which is considered a symbol of either the Hindu deity Vishnu or the Buddha.{{Sfn|Gutschow|Michaels|Bau|2008|p=93}}{{Cite news |date=8 December 2019 |title=Bel Bibaha |url=https://nepalitimes.com/banner/bel-bibaha |url-status=live |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20230510034923/https://www.nepalitimes.com/banner/bel-bibaha |archive-date=10 May 2023 |work=Nepali Times}}{{Cite news |last=Parajuli |first=Abhas |date=15 June 2023 |title=The story of Ihi: Why girls from this community are ‘marrying’ a fruit |url=https://www.sbs.com.au/language/nepali/en/article/the-story-of-ihi-why-girls-from-this-community-are-marrying-a-fruit/32lwcaa4e |url-status=live |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20240427122935/https://www.sbs.com.au/language/nepali/en/article/the-story-of-ihi-why-girls-from-this-community-are-marrying-a-fruit/32lwcaa4e |archive-date=27 April 2024 |work=SBS}}{{cite web|title=Little Newari girls attend Bel Marriage in Nepal|url=http://news.xinhuanet.com/english/photo/2014-02/21/c_133134233.htm|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20140818205418/http://news.xinhuanet.com/english/photo/2014-02/21/c_133134233.htm|url-status=dead|archive-date=August 18, 2014|publisher=news.xinhuanet.com|access-date=9 May 2016}} It is believed that if the girl's husband dies later in her life, she is not considered a widow because she is married to Vishnu, and so already has a husband that is believed to be still alive. This was basically done to dodge the tradition of 'Sati Pratha', where after the husband dies, the widow sacrifices herself in the burning fire.{{cite news|title=Ex-Kumari of Bhaktapur looks forward to devoting her time to studies|url=http://kathmandupost.ekantipur.com/news/2016-03-26/ex-kumari-of-bhaktapur-looks-forward-to-devoting-her-time-to-studies.html|access-date=9 May 2016|publisher=Kathmandu Post}}

File:Bel Marriage02.jpgIhi is falsely labeled as "Bel Bibaha". However, this naming is incorrect as "Bel Bibaha" would mean marriage to a fruit Bel(or Bael). At the core of the Ihi is a traditional Hindu ceremony of marriage, but the spouse is Visnu/Narayana.{{Cite web|title=Mesocosm|url=https://publishing.cdlib.org/ucpressebooks/view?docId=ft6k4007rd&chunk.id=d0e26564&toc.depth=1&toc.id=d0e25769&brand=ucpress|access-date=2020-11-10|website=publishing.cdlib.org}}

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This ritual has been in practice for centuries. It is a highly sacred ritual and a real kanyaadaan as a virgin girl is handed over to God. Actually, during the Ihi ceremony girl is married to a golden statue of lord Vishnu known as Suvarna Kumar, and Bel fruit is given as its witness. As bel fruit (wood apple) has a peculiar quality of not rotting and remaining fresh forever, it is sometimes considered as Divya Purusha (divine male) or incarnation of the god. This ceremony lasts for two days. All the rituals of a Hindu marriage are performed in this ceremony. So, these rituals need not be performed again while marrying a man. That's why in Newars it is not necessary for a groom to join the wedding procession [janti (nep.), Baraat (Hindi)]. The family members and friends bring the bride to the groom's house where few rituals are performed. But nowadays newar grooms participate in their wedding procession hence the wedding in this community has become a bit lengthy as compared before.

A second marriage, known as the Bahra ceremony or Sun marriage, occurs before a girl's first menstruation, which starts with a seclusion in a dark room for twelve days.