Phyllis Gates

{{short description|American secretary and interior decorator, wife of Rock Hudson (1925–2006)}}

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| birth_name = Phyllis Lucille Gates

| birth_date = {{Birth date|1925|12|07}}

| birth_place = Dawson, Minnesota, U.S.

| death_date = {{Death date and age|2006|01|04|1925|12|07}}

| death_place = Marina del Rey, California, U.S.

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| occupation = Secretary, Interior Decorator

| spouse = {{marriage|Rock Hudson|1955|1958|end=div.}}

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Phyllis Lucille Gates (December 7, 1925 – January 4, 2006) was an American secretary and interior decorator, known for her three-year marriage to the actor Rock Hudson. The story of their marriage was depicted in the TV film Rock Hudson (1990), starring Daphne Ashbrook as Gates and Thomas Ian Griffith as Hudson.{{IMDb title|0100505|Rock Hudson}}

Early life

Gates was born in Dawson, Minnesota, to Leo Gates (1896–1970) and Mabel (née Johnson) Gates (1900–1999), and raised on a farm. She graduated from Clarkfield High School in June 1943.{{Cite book |last=Gates |first=Phyllis |title=My husband, Rock Hudson : the real story of Rock Hudson's marriage to Phyllis Gates |date=1987 |publisher=Doubleday |first2=Bob |last2=Thomas |isbn=0-385-24071-6 |edition=1st |location=Garden City, NY |oclc=15015342}} Early in her life, she worked as a sales clerk in a department store, flight attendant, and secretary for a New York City talent agent, before moving to Hollywood to work for talent agent Henry Willson, who represented actors Rock Hudson, Tab Hunter, and Rory Calhoun.{{cite web |title=Phyllis Gates, 80; Former Talent Agency Secretary Was Briefly Married to Rock Hudson in '50s |newspaper=Los Angeles Times |date=August 9, 1987 |url=https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-2006-jan-12-me-gates12-story.html |access-date=November 4, 2012}}

Marriage to Rock Hudson

Gates met Rock Hudson in October 1954. They started dating some time later and were married in Santa Barbara, California, on November 9, 1955, shortly after he finished filming Giant. Following a brief honeymoon in Jamaica, their marriage began to disintegrate. They separated in 1957, following rumors that Hudson had committed adultery while on location in Italy for the film A Farewell to Arms. The rumors were later confirmed by a close friend of Gates's, who also revealed to her that the individual Hudson had the affair with was a man. The divorce was finalized in 1958.{{Cite web |last=Weisman |first=Aly |title=Rock Hudson's Wife Secretly Recorded His Gay Confession — Revealed 55 Years Later |url=https://www.businessinsider.com/rock-hudsons-gay-confession-recorded-by-wife-2013-6 |access-date=2024-05-16 |website=Business Insider |language=en-US}}

Later life

Gates later became a successful interior decorator. She died from lung cancer at her home in Marina del Rey, California, aged 80. She was survived by her sister Marvis Ketelsen and brother Russell Gates.

In her autobiography, published in 1987 after Hudson's 1985 death from AIDS, Gates wrote that she was in love with Hudson and that she did not know Hudson was gay when they married, and was not complicit in his deception.

However, the author and journalist Robert Hofler wrote in the biography The Man Who Invented Rock Hudson: "Those who knew her (Gates) say she was a lesbian who tried to blackmail her movie star husband (Hudson)" or "She then became addicted to being the wife of a star, and didn't want the divorce (...) Phyllis could play around with women, but Rock had to remain faithful to her. In a way, she was just being pragmatic: she feared that Rock's exposure would ruin his fame, which was in turn her gravy train."{{citation needed|date=April 2020}}

This was disputed by Gates in an interview with Larry King in which she also said that she had been the one to initiate the divorce based on her husband's behavior. Gates said she did not get much in the divorce because she did not want to take advantage of him. She also said that she had never stopped loving him, and that he was the 'love of her life'.{{cite journal|last1=Hofler|first1=Robert|title=Outing Mrs. Rock Hudson|journal=The Advocate (The National Gay & Lesbian Newsmagazine)|date=February 28, 2006|issue=2006|page=46|url=https://www.questia.com/read/1G1-143009615/outing-mrs-rock-hudson-the-obits-after-phyllis-gates|publisher=Regent Media|language=en|access-date=October 4, 2017|archive-date=October 5, 2017|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20171005051527/https://www.questia.com/read/1G1-143009615/outing-mrs-rock-hudson-the-obits-after-phyllis-gates|url-status=dead}}