Preacher's kid

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Preacher's kid is a term to refer to a child of a preacher, pastor, deacon, vicar, lay leader, priest, minister or other similar church leader. Although the phrase can be used in a purely descriptive way, it may also be used as a stereotype. In some countries, a preacher's kid is referred to as a vicar's son/daughter.

Phenomenon

Children of clergy often experience pressure due to the expectations placed on them,Thomas W. Klink, "The Ministry as Career and Crisis", in Pastoral Psychology, v. 20 no. 6 pp. [https://doi.org/10.1007%2FBF01785142 13-19] (Springer: 1969){{cite book | last = Flanagan | first = Kieran | title = A Sociology of Spirituality | publisher = Ashgate Publishing | year = 2009 | isbn = 978-1-4094-0259-6 | page = 194 | url = https://books.google.com/books?id=I8KGArdY_k0C&pg=PA194 }}{{cite web |url=http://www.erin.utoronto.ca/~Hitachi/pks.htm |title=The Clergy Family in Canada: Focus on Adult PK's |access-date= 2011-06-15 |author=Douglas F. Campbell |date= August 18–20, 1995 |work=Paper read at the annual meeting of the Association for the Sociology of Religion, Washington, D.C. |publisher=Erindale College, University of Toronto |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20061007093506/http://www.erin.utoronto.ca/~Hitachi/pks.htm |archive-date= 2006-10-07 }}J. Elizabeth Norrell, "[http://familyscienceassociation.org/archived%20journal%20articles/volume2/FSR--Volume%202%20Number%204/Vol%202%20No%204%20Article%205.PDF Clergy Family Satisfaction] {{webarchive|url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110202160735/http://familyscienceassociation.org/archived%20journal%20articles/volume2/FSR--Volume%202%20Number%204/Vol%202%20No%204%20Article%205.PDF |date=2011-02-02 }}," Family Science Review, Vol. 2, No. 4, November, 1989 pp. 337-346. and may develop feelings of isolation and inner conflict as a result.{{cite book | last1 = Levitz | first1 = Yisrael N. | last2 = Twerski | first2 = Abraham J. | title = A practical guide to rabbinic counseling | publisher = Feldheim Publishers | year = 2005 | isbn = 1-58330-834-2 | page = 374 | url = https://books.google.com/books?id=8N83IFNvsIgC&pg=PA374 }} Parental workload (which, by definition, includes working on the weekend) may also be a source of stress. Some writers suggest that there is a "preacher's kid syndrome", in which children of clergy reject religion and the church.{{cite book | last = Edwards | first = David Lawrence | title = Glimpses of God: seeing the divine in the ordinary | publisher = Chalice Press | year = 1995 | isbn = 0-8272-1239-9 | page = [https://archive.org/details/glimpsesofgodsee0000edwa/page/61 61] | url = https://archive.org/details/glimpsesofgodsee0000edwa | url-access = registration }}

Such rebellious children of the clergy are a stock figure in the Southern literature of the United States,{{cite book | last = Ramsey | first = G. Lee | title = Preachers and misfits, prophets and thieves: the minister in southern fiction | publisher = Westminster John Knox Press | year = 2008 | isbn = 978-0-664-23224-5 | page = 8 | url = https://books.google.com/books?id=QE5yFLed6PgC&pg=PA8 }} and this view is seen as a stereotype.{{cite book | last = Ford | first = Aundria H. Hawkins | title = From the Pastor's Daughter: A Testimony of Life in the Ministry Through the Eyes of the Pastor's Child | publisher = Tate Publishing | year = 2010 | isbn = 978-1-60799-803-7 | page = 88 | url = https://books.google.com/books?id=h_r6mVkI1zAC&pg=PA88 }} One literary example occurs in Eugene O'Neill's play The Iceman Cometh when the traveling salesman Hickey describes his life: "You see, even as a kid I was always restless. I had to keep on the go. You’ve heard the old saying, 'Ministers' sons are sons of guns.' Well, that was me, and then some." Other writers note that children of the clergy (both Christian and Jewish) may often become clergy themselves,David Peterson, "Preachers' kids; The children of preachers saw life in their church or synagogue from the inside. Many rejected the preacher's life, but others were drawn to follow their father's footsteps." (Minneapolis Star Tribune, byline [https://web.archive.org/web/20121106054556/http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1G1-62617446.html Oct. 11, 1997], accessed Nov. 21, 2008) such as Martin Luther King Jr., son of Martin Luther King Sr.; and Franklin Graham, son of Billy Graham.

Children of clergy may be more exposed than their peers to the defining events of life. Former British Prime Minister Gordon Brown recalled that he learned much about life, death, poverty, injustice and unemployment as the son of a Church of Scotland minister.{{cite news|last=Taylor|first=Alan|title=To the manse born|url=http://www.heraldscotland.com/to-the-manse-born-1.836550|access-date=27 June 2011|newspaper=The Herald (Scotland)|date=18 August 2007}} The "preacher's kid" phenomenon has been connected with the related phenomenon of "military brats" (children of active-duty military personnel).{{cite book | last = Kruger | first = Roger | title = In Jars of Clay: Reflections on the Art of Pastoring | publisher = Hillcrest Publishing Group | year = 2008 | isbn = 978-1-934248-83-6 | page = 26 | url = https://books.google.com/books?id=sfHkqluzkncC&pg=PA26 }} Children of preachers who are missionaries (missionary kids) may also be third culture kids.

Stereotypes

There are two different stereotypes of the preacher's kid: in one, they are perfectly angelic role models,{{cite book | last = Fichter | first = Joseph Henry | title = Wives of Catholic Clergy | publisher = Rowman & Littlefield | year = 1992 | isbn = 1-55612-474-0 | page = 152 | url = https://books.google.com/books?id=gJmInUDEIbAC&pg=PA152 }} in the other they are rebels at the opposite extreme.Tara J. Allman, [https://mds.marshall.edu/etd/13/ An Analysis of the Stereotypes of Preacher’s Kids and its Application on their Spouses], Masters thesis, Marshall University, 2007. The existence of these stereotypes is a source of pressure on children of clergy.

Examples of the negative stereotype include the preacher's son from Maine in the film Gettysburg, described as the "best darn cusser I've ever heard" and Jessica Lovejoy in the "Bart's Girlfriend" episode of The Simpsons, as well as the character Ariel in the 1984 film Footloose.{{cite book | last = Pinsky | first = Mark I. | title = The gospel according to the Simpsons | edition = 2nd | publisher = Westminster John Knox Press | year = 2007 | isbn = 978-0-664-23160-6 | page = [https://archive.org/details/gospelaccordingt0000pins/page/85 85] | url = https://archive.org/details/gospelaccordingt0000pins | url-access = registration }} On the sitcom Three's Company, the character Chrissy Snow played by Suzanne Somers played off a variety of stereotypes including the "dumb blonde", but also as daughter of Reverend Luther Snow (Peter Mark Richman), the character – as well as much of the show's humor – was developed around aspects of Chrissy's innocence and naïvety based on a stereotype of her religious upbringing in small town America. The TV series 7th Heaven is also a good example of the pastor's kid stereotype. The Camden family father, Eric (Stephen Collins), is a minister, and he and his wife Annie (Catherine Hicks) have seven children. Sometimes they are perfect angels but most of the time the show displays the trials that the family go through as the children grow up, and often the children are criticized because of who their father is. Lifetime reality TV series Preachers' Daughters follows the lives of Christian preacher's daughters and their families.

An enduring image from popular music is presented in the hit song "Son of a Preacher Man," a ballad of a woman remembering her first sexual experiences with the son of the local church’s preacher. The song describes the minister's son as a "sweet-talkin' son of a preacher man", a boy who woos and seduces the singer as an adolescent. Because the young man is a ‘preacher’s kid’, the implication is that the singer’s family believes him to be of no moral threat to their daughter, unlike other young men. This is further supported by the lyrics “The only one who could ever reach me/Was the son of a preacher man/The only boy who could ever teach me/Was the son of a preacher man."

Several singers and entertainers have covered the song including Dusty Springfield, whom it is most synonymous with, and Aretha Franklin. It was Franklin, who was the daughter of a Baptist minister and had given birth to her first child at age 12 and her second child at age 15, who was the inspiration for “Son of a Preacher Man” songwriters John Hurley and Ronnie Wilkins. It is unknown if Wilkins or Hurley knew of Franklin’s personal life when writing the lyrics, as Franklin did not like to discuss her early life or first two children in public, or if it was merely coincidental.

The "preacher's daughter" is also a pervasive negative stereotype ascribed to female children that has a particular set of connotations, often sexual, rebellious, or dark in nature. The stereotype is typically suggestive of a dual life: one lived as the expected descendant of piety and the other lived wild, outside of the morals of religion, cloaked in secrecy. Songs such as "Preacher's Daughter" by American R&B singer-songwriter Anthony Hamilton exhibit this role: "She had a habit that she couldn't really stop, needed money so she had to hit the block, nobody knew it so she steady had to play a role, went to church, but surely tearin' up her soul... she was a Preacher's Daughter."

Other terms

In Scotland, to be a "child of the manse" is considered very influential on a person's upbringing.

In German, the terms Pfarrerskind{{cite book | last = Würzberg | first = Anja | title = Ich: Pfarrerskind: Vom Leben in der heiligen Familienfirma | publisher = Lutherisches Verlagshaus | year = 2005 | isbn = 3-7859-0927-6 }} and Priesterkind are used to refer to children of clergy.

Greek surnames with the prefix Papa- and Armenian surnames with the prefix Ter- or Der- refer to people who are the descendants of clergy.

Preacher's kid

Phenomenon

Stereotypes

Other terms

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