Recovering from Religion

{{Short description|Non-profit organization supporting people leaving religion}}

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| founder = Darrel Ray

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| status = 501(c)(3) organization{{cite web |title=Recovering from Religion (welcome) |url=https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/#rfr-welcome |website=RecoveringfromReligion.org/ |publisher=Recovering from Religion |access-date=5 May 2021 |archive-url=https://archive.today/20210505004401/https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/%23rfr-welcome |archive-date=5 May 2021 |url-status=live }}

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| purpose = Provide hope, healing and support to those struggling with issues related to doubt or loss of religious beliefs.{{CN|date=October 2021}}

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| homepage = {{URL|http://recoveringfromreligion.org/}}

| key_people = Darrel Ray (Founder)
Gayle Jordan (executive director)
Nathan Phelps (emeritus board member){{Cite news |url=https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/on-faith/phelps-son-condemns-plan-to-picket-newtown-funerals/2012/12/17/c2244b38-488c-11e2-8af9-9b50cb4605a7_story.html |title=Phelps' son condemns plan to picket Newtown funerals |author=Kimberly Winston |newspaper=The Washington Post |date=17 December 2012 |access-date=21 January 2015}}{{Cite news |url=https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/religion/atheist-nate-phelps-on-his-father-i-mourn-the-man-he-could-have-been/2014/03/21/647e9156-b121-11e3-b8b3-44b1d1cd4c1f_story.html |title=Atheist Nate Phelps on his father: I mourn 'the man he could have been' |author=Kimberly Winston |newspaper=The Washington Post |date=21 March 2014 |access-date=21 January 2015}}

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Recovering from Religion (RfR) is an international non-profit organization that helps people who have left religion,{{Cite news |url=https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/atheists-others-to-gather-at-reason-rally/2012/03/23/gIQAvqY2WS_story.html |title='Godless' rally for recognition |author=Lori Aratani |newspaper=The Washington Post |date=24 March 2012 |access-date=21 January 2015}} are in process of leaving, or are dealing with problems arising out of theistic doubt or non-belief. RfR provides support groups, telephone and chat helplines, an online peer support community, and online meetings for "people in their most urgent time of need".{{cite web |url=http://www.salon.com/2013/06/25/7_groups_atheists_can_turn_to_in_times_of_need_partner/ |title=7 groups atheists can turn to in times of need |author=Greta Christina |author-link=Greta Christina |work=Salon |date=25 June 2013 |access-date=28 January 2015}} It is headquartered in Kansas City, Kansas.

History

Recovering from Religion was founded in 2009 by Kansas-based atheist activist and psychologist Darrel Ray.{{Cite news |url=https://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/26/magazine/from-bible-belt-pastor-to-atheist-leader.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0 |title=From Bible-Belt Pastor to Atheist Leader |author=Robert F. Worth |work=The New York Times |date=22 August 2012 |access-date=20 January 2015}} RfR includes former Westboro Baptist Church member Nathan Phelps among its board of directors as an emeritus board member.{{Cite web|url=https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/board-of-directors/|title=Board of Directors|website=Recovering from Religion|language=en-US|access-date=2018-07-21}} In December 2011, RfR appointed Clergy Project member and former pastor Jerry DeWitt as its executive director.{{Cite news |url=http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/religion/story/2012-04-30/pastor-lost-faith/54651274/1 |title=Pastor's loss of faith started with loss of hell |author=Kimberly Winston |work=USA Today |date=30 April 2012 |access-date=21 January 2015}}

Sarah Morehead, once an evangelical Southern Baptist, was appointed its deputy executive director at the same time. DeWitt resigned in 2012 to pursue personal projects. Sarah Morehead was appointed executive director on January 1, 2013, and remained until October 25, 2015.{{cite web|url=http://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/press/|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20150228041512/http://recoveringfromreligion.org/press/|url-status=dead|archive-date=2015-02-28|date=October 2015|title=Recovering From Religion Bids Executive Director Farewell}} Gayle Jordan was appointed executive director on January 7, 2016.{{Cite web| url = http://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/new-executive-director/| title = RfR Hires New Executive Director| website = Recovering from Religion| access-date = 2016-02-28}}

In 2012, Recovering from Religion included over 100 local chapters scattered across the United States, each one meeting monthly, typically with 10 to 12 participants. By 2013, RfR announced fundraising for its Hotline Project, a toll free phone number featuring trained support agents, which was funded in a matter of weeks, as well as The Secular Therapist Project. In 2014, RfR offered online classes dubbed "Recovering Your Sexuality" for individuals working through the negative impact of religion on their sexual development and identity.{{cite web|title=Recovering Your Sexuality|url=http://recoveringfromreligion.org/recovering-sexuality/|access-date=7 February 2015|url-status=dead| archive-url=https://archive.today/20150209154823/http://recoveringfromreligion.org/recovering-sexuality/|archive-date=9 February 2015}}

In advance of the twelfth anniversary of RfR in April 2021, Darrel Ray was interviewed and provided an update on the organization. Ray said that RfR directs people to resources including therapy, but "The main thing is dealing with that immediate pain. In particular, from being shunned. The pain can be quite literal when a father beats a child because they don't believe anymore." Ray reported that RfR takes 300-500 chat and phone calls each month, and that there are 275 volunteers in 16 different time zones, and they have access to a library of online resources to provide to the clients.

Hotline Project

RfR launched the Hotline Project on February 27, 2015, with former pastor Teresa MacBain serving as the director.{{cite web|title=Leaving your religion? Now, there's a hotline to help|url=http://www.religionnews.com/2015/02/27/new-hotline-launches-help-people-leave-religion-behind/|website=religionnews.com|date=27 February 2015 |access-date=27 February 2015}} According to MacBain, the hotline is a peer-support call center for people struggling with issues of faith, doubt, and nonbelief. The number in the US is 84 - I Doubt It (844-368-2848). The call agents are trained to offer support and resources without influencing the caller toward or away from any religious belief or lack of belief. "The greatest gift we offer those who call is compassion without judgement. Each person must walk their own path, we just want to be a 'shoulder to lean on' when needed." remarked Ms. MacBain in a speech given at the Gateway to Reason Conference.{{cite web|last1=Ryan|first1=Andrew|title=Atheists plan hotline for doubters who lose faith. Wait, what?|url=https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/the-hot-button/atheists-plan-hotline-for-doubters-who-lose-faith-wait-what/article12377694/ |work=The Globe and Mail |date=6 June 2013 |access-date=28 January 2015}} This service is a free 24/7 service run by volunteers.{{cite web |url=http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2013/06/04/atheists-to-start-1-800-hotline/ |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20130609064355/http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2013/06/04/atheists-to-start-1-800-hotline/ |url-status=dead |archive-date=June 9, 2013 |title=Atheists to start 1-800 hotline for doubters |author=Dan Merica |work=CNN Religion Blog |date=4 June 2013 |access-date=21 January 2015}}

The Hotline Project was developed in response to the large volume of calls and e-mails that RfR receives daily from people who are seeking help and support in their time of doubt, and want to leave religion, but do not know to whom to turn or what to do next.{{cite web |url=http://www.inquisitr.com/688662/atheist-hotline-will-offer-answers-to-those-questioning-religion/ |title=Atheist Hotline Will Offer Answers To Those Questioning Religion |website=Inquisitr.com |date=5 June 2013 |access-date=28 January 2015}} The aim of the service provided by this hotline is not to lead callers away from religion, but to provide advice and support for those who struggle with their doubts. In an interview with The Christian Post, Sarah Morehead said: "It's not our place to do anything but encourage exploration and discovery, and to provide a solid support structure as people reconsider the role of religion in their lives".{{Cite news |url=http://www.christianpost.com/news/atheist-group-seeks-funding-for-hotline-for-those-leaving-religion-97268/ |title=Atheist Group Seeks Funding for Hotline for Those Leaving Religion |author=Michael Gryboski |work=The Christian Post |date=4 June 2013 |access-date=21 January 2015}} The service was updated in June 2017 offering more stream-lined technology and changed to the Helpline Project, offering not only a call line and chatline but also an online community.

Christian apologist William Lane Craig has criticised the hotline for its perceived "attempt to portray [religion] in a negative way," claiming that it thereby supports atheism and ignores all contrary philosophical arguments. Morehead denies the claim, affirming that its responders do not promote "any form of belief or disbelief" and are "specifically trained to never debate callers under any circumstances."{{cite web |url=http://www.christianpost.com/news/christian-philosopher-william-lane-craig-calls-atheist-hotline-a-wrong-number-98182/ |title=Christian Philosopher William Lane Craig Calls Atheist Hotline a 'Wrong Number' |author=Anugrah Kumar |work=The Christian Post |date=18 June 2013 |access-date=28 January 2015}}

The Secular Therapy Project

In 2012, Darrel Ray launched the "Secular Therapist Project" as part of RfR. It employed a website dedicated to connecting people seeking help with therapists who do not make use of religious beliefs in therapy.{{cite web |url=https://www.seculartherapy.org/abouttheproject.php |title=About the Recovering From Religion Secular Therapist Project |author=Darrel Ray |work=Secular Therapy |access-date=24 January 2015}} In September 2017, RfR updated the project's name to the Secular Therapy Project, and launched a brand new website and database.{{Cite web|url=https://www.patheos.com/blogs/tippling/2017/09/04/updated-secular-therapy-project/|title=The Updated Secular Therapy Project|last=Pierce|first=Jonathan|date=2017-09-04|website=A Tippling Philosopher|language=en|access-date=2019-11-06}}

''ExCommunications'' blog

RfR maintains a blog named ExCommunications which serves as an extension of the RfR mission "by allowing doubters and ex-believers to share their own experiences or read about others'." The organization states that "Writing about a personal journey can help bring a sense of peace and resolution, and it reassures those who have been down a similar road that they are not alone. If you’ve got a story you’d like to share, head over to our submission guidelines page... Otherwise, happy reading!"{{cite web |title=ExCommunications: Stories from ex-believers, doubters, and those recovering from religion |url=https://medium.com/excommunications |website=Medium.com |publisher=Medium |access-date=5 May 2021 |archive-url=https://archive.today/20210505010730/https://medium.com/excommunications |archive-date=5 May 2021 |url-status=live }}

RfR podcast

The RfR podcast has had several format iterations.

The most recent version is hosted by RfR online programming director, anthropologist Dr. Kara Griffin, a former Southern Baptist. These episodes consist of audio recordings adapted from the organization's weekly "RfRx Talks" in which RfR volunteers "talk to those who’ve been harmed by extreme religion and religious practices. You meet guests with personal experiences and insights in various religions and religious groups, including Mormonism, Jehovah Witnesses, Scientology, religious activism, and more."{{cite web |title=Recovering From Religion Podcast |url=https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/podcast |website=recoveringfromreligion.org |publisher=Recovering from Religion |access-date=10 November 2022 |archive-url=https://archive.today/20221110230400/https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/podcast |archive-date=10 November 2022 |date=10 November 2022 |url-status=live}}{{cite web |title=Recovering From Religion Podcast Episodes |url=https://anchor.fm/recovering-from-religion |website=Anchor by Spotify |publisher=Recovering from Religion |access-date=10 November 2022}}{{cite web |title=RfRx Talks |url=https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/rfrx |website=recoveringfromreligion.org |publisher=Recovering from Religion |access-date=10 November 2022}}

A previous iteration of the podcast, begun in October 2018, was co-hosted by Tim Rymel and Bill Prickett. Guests included Lloyd Evans, Janja Lalich, John Smid, and Angela Soffe.{{CN|date=November 2022}} Prior to 2018, the podcast was hosted by Scott Smith who, along with his wife, died on November 27, 2017, in a murder-suicide by Scott.{{Cite news|url=http://podcasternews.com/2017/11/29/prominent-atheist-podcaster-dies-in-murder-suicide/|title=Prominent Atheist Podcaster Dies in Murder-Suicide|last=Thorpe|first=Jen|date=29 November 2017|work=Podcaster News|access-date=14 December 2019}}

Support Groups

RfR runs virtual and in-person support groups for its clients which may be accessed from their homepage via links to their "Group Meeting Calendar" and "Support Group Map".

Online community

RfR features an online community, consisting of a wide variety of "channels" organized by topics such as the religion being questioned, being African-American, coming out as gay or trans, or being a questioning clergy member.

Weekly Zoom meetings

RfR holds virtual client meetings using Zoom most Monday evenings (US time) where people recovering from different religions discuss issues of mutual interest.{{cite web |last1=Bernstein |first1=Robert |title=DARREL RAY: RECOVERING FROM RELIGION |url=https://www.edhat.com/news/darrel-ray-recovering-from-religion |website=edhat.com |publisher=Edhat |access-date=3 May 2021 |archive-url=https://archive.today/20210503195010/https://www.edhat.com/news/darrel-ray-recovering-from-religion |archive-date=3 May 2021 |date=28 March 2021 |url-status=live }}

Ambassador program

RfR has an "Ambassador program" whereby volunteers are trained to represent Recovering from Religion in their local communities as well as online. Volunteers must agree to "refrain from engaging in debate about religion or gods, and will instead encourage people to chat, phone, visit our Resources, or join one [of] our local Support Groups."{{cite web |title=Ambassador Application Form |url=https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/ambassador-application-form |website=recoveringfromreligion.org |publisher=Recovering from Religion |access-date=10 February 2023}}