My Love Affair with Marriage

Hungry for love and acceptance, young Zelma feels incomplete. Hounded by three singing Mythology Sirens, she sets out on a 23-year quest for perfect love and lasting marriage. She is unaware, however, that her own Biology is a powerful force to be reckoned with.

More than anything, 8-year-old Zelma wants love. Only love will make her complete, the Mythology Sirens insist. But love is elusive when you are an outcast at school and a loner at home. Guided by the Mythology Siren's hypnotic songs, Zelma tries to change herself into the kind of girl that boys like – cute, weak, demure.

But there are consequences, counters Biology. Zelma has DNA, millions of neural pathways, and a vast array of chemical reactions inside her brain that make up her personality. Zelma has no choice but to be a battleground of conflicts between the Mythology Sirens and Biology as she struggles to find her own ground.

Coming of age brings blood and creepy compliments. Her early sexual encounters confound her, and, tragically, her best friend Darya dies in childbirth. Zelma is comforted by marriage to Sergei, but it soon veers into domestic abuse. A second, gender-bending marriage to Bo, though brief, deepens her understanding of herself and her place in the world.

• Dagmara Dominczyk as Zelma{{Cite web |last=Bałaga |first=Marta |date=2022-05-24 |title='Succession' Star Dagmara Dominczyk Returns to Her Roots in 'My Love Affair With Marriage' |url=https://variety.com/2022/film/markets-festivals/succession-dagmara-dominczyk-my-love-affair-with-marriage-1235275871/ |access-date=2022-12-15 |website=Variety |language=en-US}}
• Michele Pawk as Biology
• Trio Limonāde (Iluta Alsberga, Ieva Katkovska, Kristīne Pastare) as the Mythology Sirens
• Cameron Monaghan as Sergei (Zelma's first husband){{Cite web |last=Sneider |first=Jeff |date=2017-11-30 |title=Cameron Monaghan, "Shameless" Co-Stars Join Voice Cast of "My Love Affair With Marriage" (Exclusive) |url=https://www.tracking-board.com/cameron-monaghan-shameless-co-stars-join-voice-cast-of-my-love-affair-with-marriage-exclusive/ |access-date=2022-12-15 |website=The Tracking Board |language=en-US}}
• Matthew Modine as Bo (Zelma's second husband){{Cite web |last=McNary |first=Dave |date=2017-02-01 |title='Stranger Things' Star Matthew Modine Joins Animated Film 'My Love Affair With Marriage' (EXCLUSIVE) |url=https://variety.com/2017/film/news/stranger-things-matthew-modine-my-love-affair-with-marriage-1201975470/ |access-date=2022-12-15 |website=Variety |language=en-US}}
• Stephen Lang as Jonas (the older artist)
• Storm Large as End-credits Singer
• Erica Schroeder as Elita (the singing perfect girl)
• Florencia Lozano as Zelma's Mother
• Emma Kenney as Sarma (Zelma's sister)
• Carolyn Baeumler as Darya (Zelma's college friend)
• Christina Pumariega as Darya's Mother
• Tracy Thorne as Master of Ceremonies (funeral)
• Laila Robins as Master of Ceremonies (wedding)
• Anna O'Donoghue as Teacher 1
• Tanya Franks as Teacher 2
• Clyde Baldo as Eduards (school bully)
• Najla Said as New Girl
• Dan Domingues as Lauris (the kissing high school senior)
• Keith Randolph Smith as Man on Train
• Ruby Modine as Nina (Sergei's Mother)
• Cindy Cheung as Velta (Gallery owner)
• Brian Dykstra as Estonian 1
• Andrew Garman as Estonian 2
• Dale Soules as Latvian Official
• Michael Laurence as Big Man
• Sturgis Warner as Big Man's Friend
• Jennifer Dorr White as Swedish Pastor

Baumane began the script in 2015. She set out to write about her second marriage to a self-described gender-bending man from Sweden, but soon expanded the story to explore what made them want to get married in the first place. From there, a story of a young woman's search for love, purpose and meaning emerged. Baumane asked herself where do young women get the idea that they have to marry to be a complete person and have a worthy life? Where does it start? Also, what is love? What's the basis of it? What happens neurologically when people fall in and out of love?

Over the next year Baumane researched the biology of love and consulted periodically with NYU professor Pascal Wallisch, PhD for scientific accuracy. She wrote 24 drafts of the script weaving into her story the ways body chemistry dictates many of the decisions humans make and the feelings they feel. For this she created a neuron-like character, Biology. She also researched the anthropology and culture of love and created three singing, shape-shifting characters, the Mythology Sirens, who try to influence Zelma through pop songs. Composer Kristian Sensini wrote the music to Baumane's lyrics.{{Cite web |last=Lang |first=Jamie |date=2022-06-10 |title=Signe Baumane On Lesson Learned Making 'My Love Affair With Marriage' |url=https://www.cartoonbrew.com/interviews/my-love-affair-with-marriage-signe-baumane-217458.html |access-date=2022-12-23 |website=Cartoon Brew |language=en-US}}{{Cite web |last=Chambers |first=Katie |date=2022-06-22 |title=NYWIFT @ Tribeca: In Conversation with Filmmaker Signe Baumane |url=https://www.nywift.org/2022/06/22/nywift-tribeca-in-conversation-with-filmmaker-signe-baumane/ |access-date=2022-12-23 |website=New York Women in Film & Television |language=en-US}}{{Cite web |date=2022-06-13 |title=Tribeca Festival Interview: Signe Baumane and Dagmara Dominczyk on Exploring Female Empowerment in My Love Affair with Marriage |url=https://cinemadailyus.com/interviews/tribeca-festival-interview-signe-baumane-and-dagmara-dominczyk-on-exploring-female-empowerment-in-my-love-affair-with-marriage/ |access-date=2022-12-25 |website=Cinema Daily US |language=en-US}}

Baumane and casting director Sturgis Warner looked to cast actors with extensive theater credits and excellent language skills. They signed a Theatrical Contract with SAG-AFTRA and began making offers. Dagmara Dominczyk played Zelma from ages 7 to 29 and narrated the film from an older age. Michele Pawk voiced the second narrator, Biology. The Latvian singing group Trio Limonāde recorded the Mythology Sirens both in English and Latvian (for the Latvian language version). Matthew Modine came on board to voice Bo, Zelma's second husband, and with him brought three actors from Shameless: Cameron Monaghan to voice Sergei, Zelma's first husband, Emma Kenney and Ruby Modine.

in 2017, Baumane and Warner recorded 29 actors and singers{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair With Marriage {{!}} Cast |url=https://www.myloveaffairwithmarriagemovie.com/cast |access-date=2022-12-26 |website=Marriage Movie |language=en}} in New York City, Los Angeles and Riga, Latvia. Arjun G. Sheth, the New York Recording engineer, edited the recordings into a working vocal track.{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair With Marriage {{!}} Team |url=https://www.myloveaffairwithmarriagemovie.com/team |access-date=2022-12-26 |website=Marriage Movie |language=en}}

In 2021, Storm Large recorded Lion / My Love Affair with Marriage, the end-credit song with music by Sensini and lyrics by Baumane.

In Brooklyn, the production process began with the construction of background sets, approximately 65 of them for the 145 scenes in the film. Warner built each set out of wood creating 3-D environments into which Baumane animated her 2-D characters. When finished, he would pass the set on to the art department where the team would cover it with papier-mâché, paint an undercoat of black, then four more coats, darkest colors to lightest, to create textured looks on the surfaces of the set.

Warner, also lighting designer, then lit the set and Baumane, the Cinematographer, photographed it using an array of stop-motion techniques to create zooms, pans and other camera movements. Once a set was photographed, Baumane imported the shots into Premiere Pro to see how the images fit with the vocal track. She would print out the chosen images and using a light box to precisely line up fresh pieces of paper, she would animate 2-D characters, pencil on paper, into the photographed scene. The team scanned the drawings, organized them, and sent them to the Latvian team working at Studio Locomotive in Riga led by Producer Roberts Vinovskis. The Latvian team colored the drawings in Photoshop and composited the characters into the photographs using After Effects. Finally, they would create QuickTime movies to send back to Brooklyn for editing.{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair With Marriage {{!}} Sets |url=https://www.myloveaffairwithmarriagemovie.com/sets |access-date=2022-12-27 |website=Marriage Movie |language=en}}{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair With Marriage {{!}} Animation |url=https://www.myloveaffairwithmarriagemovie.com/animation |access-date=2022-12-27 |website=Marriage Movie |language=en}}

Baumane animated all the characters in My Love Affair with Marriage with the exception of Biology. She worked in the traditional animation style, pencil on paper, using 662 pencils in all. Baumane explained, "I like animating on paper because the pencil becomes an extension of my hand, and the impulse goes from my gut into my heart, through my shoulder into my fingertips and when I draw the line, I become one with the line, I become one with the pencil and that is an expression of what I feel and who I am. And so, pencil and paper inspire me the way that no software, no computer program can inspire me."

Yajun Shi animated the Biology sections, thirteen minutes altogether. Baumane wanted a different animator for those sections, but one with a style that would complement her own. Shi animated on a tablet directly in Photoshop and moved back and forth between Photoshop and After Effects to create her unique style.

My Love Affair with Marriage has four different styles of animation representing four distinct worlds.

• The world in which Zelma's life unfolds is represented by practical 3-D sets, photographed in stop motion with 2-D animated characters on top, with sketched-in shadows.
• The world of Zelma's imagination is depicted by flat drawings and flat, colorful backgrounds. This world helps Zelma process the events around her.
• The world of Biology, omnipresent and powerful, not visible to the naked human eye.
• The political world, the Maps, are animated in an app called OpenStreetMap. It shows the arc of Zelma's understanding of the world and how it is relates to her inner experiences."{{Cite web |title=Signe Baumane • Director of My Love Affair With Marriage |url=https://cineuropa.org/en/interview/426786/ |access-date=2022-12-24 |website=Cineuropa |date=15 June 2022 |language=en}}

Baumane and Warner edited the final picture. Post-production sound was created at Philophon Studios in Luxembourg, produced by Raoul Nadalet of Antevita Films and financed by FilmFund Luxembourg.

• Christophe Burdet was the foley artist, the creator of sound effects. As animation, My Love Affair with Marriage had no incidental sounds other than vocal track of the actors. Burdet had to created them from scratch.
• Pierre Vedovato, the sound designer, also created different aural atmospheric environments for the film's 145 scenes and arranged them with the Foleys, the actors' voices, the songs, and musical scoring.
• Loïc Collignon, the re-recording mixer, took over 1,000 tracks of sound and orchestrated them into a 7.1 surround sound mix, the current standard for cinema viewing.{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair With Marriage {{!}} Team |url=https://www.myloveaffairwithmarriagemovie.com/team |access-date=2022-12-27 |website=Marriage Movie |language=en}}

In Riga, the team at Studio Locomotive executed final mastering and color correction, and prepared all the deliverables – the various formats a feature film needs for widespread distribution.

My Love Affair with Marriage is an independent production funded over a six-year period by 1,685 individual backers and grants from a variety of institutions and foundations.

• From Latvia: National Film Centre of Latvia,{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair with Marriage {{!}} Nacionālais kino centrs |url=https://www.nkc.gov.lv/en/my-love-affair-marriage |access-date=2022-12-17 |website=www.nkc.gov.lv |language=en}} Culture Capital Foundation of Latvia, BB PostHouse
• From Luxembourg: FilmFund Luxembourg{{Cite web |title=Film Fund Luxembourg announces recipients of its second 2020 round of funding |url=https://cineuropa.org/en/newsdetail/389988/ |access-date=2022-12-19 |website=Cineuropa |date=8 July 2020 |language=en}}
• From Europe: Creative Europe MEDIA
• From the United States: New York State Film Tax Credit Program, New York State Council on the Arts, The NYC Women's Fund for Media, Music and Theatre by the City of New York Mayor's Office of Media and Entertainment in association with The New York Foundation for the Arts, John Simon Guggenheim Foundation,{{Cite web |title=Signe Baumane |url=https://www.gf.org/fellows/all-fellows/signe-baumane/ |access-date=2022-12-19 |website=John Simon Guggenheim Memorial Foundation |language=en-US}} H. O. Peet Foundation, The Ravenal Foundation Grant{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair with Marriage |url=https://www.nywift.org/my-love-affair-with-marriage/ |access-date=2022-12-28 |website=New York Women in Film & Television |language=en-US}} of New York Women in Film & Television,{{Cite web |date=2021-03-17 |title=Inside the New Films of NYWIFT Ravenal Grant Winners Sarah Knight and Signe Baumane |url=https://honeysucklemag.com/nywift-ravenal-filmmakers-sarah-knight-signe-baumane/ |access-date=2022-12-19 |website=Honeysuckle Magazine |language=en}} Kickstarter{{Cite web |title=Signe Baumane Kickstarts 'My Love Affair With Marriage' |url=https://www.awn.com/news/signe-baumane-kickstarts-my-love-affair-marriage |access-date=2022-12-19 |website=Animation World Network |language=en}} and 1,685 individual backers{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair With Marriage {{!}} Donate |url=https://www.myloveaffairwithmarriagemovie.com/donate |access-date=2022-12-27 |website=Marriage Movie |language=en}}

New Europe Film Sales is the international sales agent for the film.{{Cite web |title=MY LOVE AFFAIR WITH MARRIAGE – New Europe Film Sales |url=https://neweuropefilmsales.com/movies/my-love-affair-with-marriage/ |access-date=2022-12-27 |language=en-US}}

My Love Affair with Marriage had three premieres over a five-day period: the World Premiere at Tribeca Festival in New York City on June 11, 2022,{{Cite web |last=Grater |first=Tom |date=2022-04-19 |title=Tribeca Competition-Selected Animation 'My Love Affair With Marriage' Boarded By New Europe Film Sales |url=https://deadline.com/2022/04/tribeca-competition-selected-animation-my-love-affair-with-marriage-new-europe-film-sales-1235005437/ |access-date=2022-12-14 |website=Deadline |language=en-US}} the European Premiere at Annecy International Animation Film Festival{{Cite web |title=Official 7: My Love Affair With Marriage |url=https://www.annecyfestival.com/programme-2022/event/100001503740 |access-date=2022-12-22 |website=www.annecyfestival.com}} in France June 15, 2022, and the Latin American Premiere at Guadalajara International Film Festival{{Cite web |title=My Love Affair with Marriage |url=https://ficg.mx/en/evento/3451 |access-date=2022-12-22 |website=FICG 35 |language=en}} in Mexico June 15, 2022. It has gone on to screen at over 90 other international film festivals winning multiple awards along the way.

• Tamasa Distribution released My Love Affair with Marriage in France June 7, 2023.{{Cite web |title=Tamasa Distribution Acquires Latest Pics by Volker Schlondörff, Signe Baumane, Readies Bertrand Tavernier, Carlos Saura Retrospectives (EXCLUSIVE) |url=https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/tamasa-distribution-acquires-latest-pics-163617621.html |access-date=2022-12-22 |website=Yahoo |date=17 October 2022 |language=en-US}}
• Filmin released My Love Affair With Marriage in Spain in 2023.{{Cite web |last=McLennan |first=Callum |date=2022-11-10 |title=New Europe Film Sales Adds Sales on Annecy-Prized 'My Love Affair With Marriage,' Venice Winner 'Blanquita' (EXCLUSIVE) |url=https://variety.com/2022/film/global/my-love-affair-with-marriage-blanquita-1235429372/ |access-date=2022-12-22 |website=Variety |language=en-US}}
• In 2023 HBO Central Europe will release My Love Affair With Marriage in 13 Central European countries: Albania, Czech Republic, Slovakia, Hungary, Poland, Romania, Moldova, Croatia, Slovenia, Serbia, Kosovo, Montenegro, Bosnia-Herzegovina, North Macedonia and Bulgaria.
• Mans laulību projekts (My Marriage Project), a Latvian language version of My Love Affair with Marriage voiced by 14 Latvian actors, premiered at Riga International Film Festival{{Cite web |title=Mans laulību projekts {{!}} RIGA IFF |url=https://rigaiff.lv/lv/films-2022/mans-laulibu-projekts/ |access-date=2022-12-22 |website=rigaiff.lv |language=lv-LV}} October 13, 2022 and screened in Latvian cinemas throughout the rest of 2022.
• My Love Affair With Marriage will have its North American theatrical release through 8 Above beginning October 6, 2023 in New York City.{{Cite web |title='My Love Affair With Marriage' Gets U.S. Theatrical Release |url=https://www.awn.com/news/my-love-affair-marriage-gets-us-theatrical-release |access-date=2023-08-09 |website=Animation World Network |language=en}}{{Cite web |last=Lang |first=Jamie |date=2023-08-04 |title=Signe Baumane's 'My Love Affair With Marriage' Will Get A U.S. Theatrical Run Starting In October |url=https://www.cartoonbrew.com/distribution/signe-baumane-my-love-affair-with-marriage-us-theatrical-231224.html |access-date=2023-08-09 |website=Cartoon Brew |language=en-US}}

• "Latvian filmmaker Signe Baumane quietly delivered one of the best female resistance films of the year — and it's animated. It's a wonderful surprise in a movie already filled to the brim with them. It's a sprawling story that follows the life of Zelma (voiced by Dagmara Domińczyk), a girl who is destined to walk down the much-tread path of her ancestors to be married to a man and taken care of. But the more she grows up and experiences new things, including bullies at school and terrible boyfriends, the more she realizes that what's destined for her may not be for her. Her body even resists the thought of such conformity. My Love Affair With Marriage is an exuberant and complex movie about the journey to female rebellion."{{Cite web |date=2022-12-06 |title=21 Movies That Moved Us This Year |url=https://www.huffpost.com/entry/best-movies-2022_n_638934c6e4b08348b52c2fbc |access-date=2022-12-17 |website=HuffPost |language=en}} — Candice Frederick, HuffPost
• "Funny, moving, and visually stunning throughout, it's easily one of the most distinct animated films I've seen in quite a while and it serves as a needed reminder that animation is an art form that can be used for more than family-oriented narratives."{{Cite web |last=Sobczynski |first=Peter |date=June 27, 2022 |title=A Look Back at Tribeca 2022: The Narrative Features {{!}} Festivals & Awards {{!}} Roger Ebert |url=https://www.rogerebert.com/festivals/a-look-at-tribeca-2022-the-narrative-features |access-date=2022-12-17 |website=Roger Ebert |language=en}} – Peter Sobczynski, RogerEbert.com
• "A joyfully exuberant piece of work that manages to conduct some serious examination of human behavior whilst always being nothing less than gloriously entertaining. Many of its themes of gender, identity and conformity also seem incredibly timely."{{Cite web |title=Review: My Love Affair With Marriage |url=https://www.cineuropa.org/en/newsdetail/426774/ |access-date=2022-12-19 |website=Cineuropa |date=15 June 2022 |language=en}} – Laurence Boyce, Cineuropa
• "This film is something special. It's unafraid to reveal our innermost thoughts, fears, hopes, regrets, mistakes, and dreams. It celebrates unfiltered authenticity with clever writing and delightful visuals. It's an outstanding feminist film that will undoubtedly win over audiences everywhere."{{Cite web |last=Whittemore |first=Liz |date=2022-06-13 |title=Tribeca Film Festival 2022 review: 'My Love Affair With Marriage' is an animated handbook to the complexities of female existence. |url=https://reelnewsdaily.com/2022/06/13/tribeca-film-festival-2022-review-my-love-affair-with-marriage-is-an-animated-handbook-to-the-complexities-of-female-existence/ |access-date=2022-12-19 |website=Reel News Daily |language=en-US}} – Liz Whittemore, ReelNewsDaily
• "For those who have more contained ideas about animated films, My Love Affair with Marriage will doubtless make them think twice about the medium's endless possibilities. This is a deeply funny, socially conscious sharp satire with heart."{{Cite web |last=poisonkeyblade |date=2022-06-11 |title=Tribeca 2022: My Love Affair With Marriage |url=https://joshatthemovies.com/2022/06/11/tribeca-2022-my-love-affair-with-marriage/ |access-date=2022-12-17 |website=Josh at the Movies |language=en-US}} – Josh Batchelder, Josh at the Movies
• "Right from the start, Signe Baumane's animation proves it has earned a place in the hallowed halls of raw storytelling. Rough, storybook-sketched 2D characters are layered on top of highly texturized stop-motion backgrounds, detailing every paint stroke, scrape, sometimes even mold spore. And the imagery is just the start."{{Cite web |title='My Love Affair with Marriage' Plays Matchmaker with Animation and Science |url=https://www.awn.com/animationworld/my-love-affair-marriage-plays-matchmaker-animation-and-science |access-date=2022-12-24 |website=Animation World Network |language=en}} – Victoria Davis, Animation World Network
• In March 2025, The New York Times listed My Love Affair With Marriage as among "The Movies We've Loved Since 2000."{{Cite web |date=March 17, 2025 |title=The Movies We've Loved Since 2000 |url=https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2025/movies/best-movies-since-2000.html |access-date=April 10, 2025 |website=The New York Times }}

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